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'Someone cooked here' and our obsession with gendered TikTok trends
'Someone cooked here' and our obsession with gendered TikTok trends
"Someone cooked here." That's all I hear any time I log onto TikTok, the ghost
2023-09-27 23:29
Taylor Swift, Drake May See Streaming Pay Rise Under New Plan
Taylor Swift, Drake May See Streaming Pay Rise Under New Plan
Universal Music Group NV, the world’s largest record company, is talking with the music service SoundCloud Ltd. about
2023-06-09 05:55
Dunkin' is releasing boozy versions of their iced coffees and teas
Dunkin' is releasing boozy versions of their iced coffees and teas
It's true: Dunkin' is turning two of its most popular drinks into boozy beverages.
2023-08-14 20:26
What is Tammy Slaton's current weight? '1000-lb Sisters' star cheats on her diet by eating unhealthy food
What is Tammy Slaton's current weight? '1000-lb Sisters' star cheats on her diet by eating unhealthy food
'1000-lb Sisters' star Tammy Slaton was seen cheating on her diet again as she cooked a fairly unhealthy meal
2023-08-24 15:21
The 17 best TV episodes of 2023 (so far)
The 17 best TV episodes of 2023 (so far)
Looking for some TV episodes that will stop you right in your tracks? That will
2023-06-06 17:58
'True Detective: Night Country' drops tense new teaser and release date
'True Detective: Night Country' drops tense new teaser and release date
Time may be a flat circle in some parts of the world, but in the
2023-09-28 18:53
Biden Decries Climate Threat But Does Not Declare Emergency
Biden Decries Climate Threat But Does Not Declare Emergency
President Joe Biden stopped short of saying he would declare a national climate emergency, a move progressive lawmakers
2023-08-09 22:19
‘Boy moms’ receive backlash for teaching sons how to cook - but for the wrong reason
‘Boy moms’ receive backlash for teaching sons how to cook - but for the wrong reason
Many people are calling out mothers of sons - also known as “boy moms” - for the reason why they’re teaching their sons how to cook, as some people call it a “red flag”. The TikTok trend first began when user Laura Elizabeth Graham shared a video of herself cooking in the kitchen with her young son, as she wrote over the clip: “Making sure my son can cook so he’s not impressed by your daughter’s [Stouffer’s] lasagna.” She continued to write in the video’s caption that her son would need a “home-cooked meal” from his future wife. Meanwhile, fellow “boy moms” also hopped on the trend, as one shared a similar video how she was teaching her son cooking skills so “he’s not impressed by your frozen pizza daughter”. The videos have since sparked a debate, as many users replied that they were teaching their sons to cook “because it’s a necessary life skill for independence.” “Teaching my son to cook because it’s a basic necessity,” one person commented under Graham’s video. Another person proclaimed they were “team daughter-in-law,” while one viewer added that the trend was “screaming red flags”. In response to the TikTok trend, some mothers took the opportunity to point out that showing young boys how to cook - just so that he’s not “impressed” by someone else’s cuisine - only teaches him to expect a higher level of household labour from his future partner. In fact, TikTok user Payal Desai posted a series of videos showing the ways in which she was teaching her sons how to take care of themselves - emotionally and physically - as they grow older. In one video, Desai showed her sons how to clean the dishes and explained why she does it: “So your daughter doesn’t have to deal with a man who was catered to his whole life.” @lauraelizabethgraham He’s gonna need a home cooked meal Felicia ? #boymom #boymomlife #boymomsoftiktok #mamasboy #mommasboy #mamasboys #relatablemom #motherinlaw #motherinlawproblems #momsoftiktok IB: @brontevictoria.capowski ♬ original sound - Laura Elizabeth Graham Many mothers of young boys also joined in, showing the ways in which they were empowering their sons to be more self-sufficient and responsible. Meanwhile, psychologist and mother Amber Wardell reacted to the TikTok trend, saying in a video: “I’m teaching my son to cook so that he will show up for his future wife as though she’s his partner and not his servant.” The ongoing trend to categorise parents as a “boy mom” or “girl dad” reportedly perpetuates gender stereotypes. “The gendering process then continues through quite literally every aspect of that child’s life: the pink or blue newborn hospital beanie, the princess or football player clothing gifted at the baby shower, the jungle or fairyland nursery room decor, and of course, the toy trucks or baby dolls,” Dr Jessica N Pabón-Colón - an associate professor of women’s, gender, and sexuality studies at SUNY New Paltz - explained to Refinery29 in 2021. @payalforstyle No dust here. #dustyson #dustydaughter #trend #boymom ♬ original sound - Bryan Pabón-Colón emphasised that juxtaposing opposite genders, in hashtags like #BoyMom, also reinforces supposed gender differences. Speaking to the outlet, she explained that both the #GirlDad and #BoyMom trend “announces the ‘feminine’ mother’s ability to parent a child whose ‘masculine’ gender is different from hers,” and ultimately suggests that parents of the opposite gender have to try harder to relate to their girls and boys. @sensible_amber This is how we create snobby, entitled men who treat their wives like the help and constantly compare them to mommy dearest. Let’s teach our boys to be self-sufficient, nurturing, compassionate, and supportive. Let’s teach them that their wives do not exist to be their mommies. Most importantly, let’s teach our sons that it is HEALTHY and NORMAL for them to one day leave us and become more attached to their wives than they are to us, and that this is what we WANT for them. Otherwise, we’ll all end up with our boys living with us forever — not because they love us but because no women will have them. They’ll be divorced, lonely and miserable, and we’ll still be cooking their meals. Is this really what we want for our sons? #motherhood #momlife #motherhoodunplugged #motherhoodunited #parenting #boymom #biymomculture #toxicboymomculture ♬ original sound - Amber Although seemingly innocuous, she suggested that this mentality does more harm than good. While the hashtags themselves aren’t harmful, Pabón-Colón emphasised that their stereotypes are limiting. She argued that “the label ‘boy’ cannot possibly contain [a child’s] personality traits,” and that there’s more to any one person than their sex or gender. “Having a vulva does not explain a child’s desire to have a tea party with their dad any more than having a penis explains a child’s desire to climb a tree with their mom,” Pabón-Colón said. The Independent has contacted Laura Elizabeth Graham for comment. 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2023-08-26 04:29
Prime Day purchase regret: Here's what to do if you have buyer's remorse
Prime Day purchase regret: Here's what to do if you have buyer's remorse
So, you splurged on Amazon Prime Day and now you're facing a tangible reminder of
2023-07-15 00:57
'Succession' star James Cromwell tweeted something important about Logan's eulogy
'Succession' star James Cromwell tweeted something important about Logan's eulogy
Succession star James Cromwell, who plays Logan's brother Ewan, has only been in one episode
2023-05-23 17:53
Leaf-peeping social media users are clogging a Vermont back road. The town is closing it
Leaf-peeping social media users are clogging a Vermont back road. The town is closing it
Social media users take note: You'll no longer be able to snap that fall foliage selfie in your autumn attire at one popular Vermont spot
2023-09-27 02:23
Chinese authorities swoop on restaurant that challenged customers to eat 108 dumplings
Chinese authorities swoop on restaurant that challenged customers to eat 108 dumplings
A restaurant in China that challenged its customers to eat more than 100 dumplings in return for a free meal has fallen foul of authorities, who are investigating whether it has violated the country's anti-food waste law.
2023-07-09 10:49